A bit of background on it all

About a week and a half ago I took Mom in for a cystcopy which is where they put a camera into the bladder to see what the problem is. She had been having pain and blood in her urine. As soon as they got in there they found a huge tumor that took up most of her bladder and has grown through the bladder walls. They removed what they could but could not get all of it because she was bleeding heavily and the tumor had gotten too far through the bladder walls.

She was in the hospital for a couple of days and had 4 blood transfusions before they would release her. A few days later we had a dr appt where we dicussed the options. One was surgery to remove the bladder and possibly part of the uterus and vagina. Very difficult surgery. another choice is chemo but the dr said that it would be a really bad experience due to the type of tumor and how extensive it was. The third option is radiation - 5 days a week for 3 weeks. So Mom opted to do nothing and just let things run its course.

Even before Bruce had cancer my mom always said that she never wanted to go through all this. She made me promise when we found all this out that I wouldn't do things to extend her life, only to make it as pain free as possible. So that is the direction we are going.