Finally at Peace

Mom passed away last night at about 10:30 after two days of labored breathing. We were all exhausted as I'm sure she must have been as well.

she had a much shorter stay here in San Diego than I had expected. We thought we would have at least six months of her here. I guess I didn't have to worry after all about Mom finding my linen closet in a mess and the tablecloths needing to be ironed. There were many things we wanted to do with her here that we never had time for because she was suddenly so sick.

But Mom did lots of things in her life, pretty much whatever she wanted. and she wanted all this to end, so she got her way there too. I'm sure Bruce was happy to have her back.

Our plans are to have Mom cremated so that people who want to be together to celebrate her will be able to make plans for an event in NJ. We will be taking her to Fairview to put her with Bruce and our grandmother. It's such a beautiful place and she picked out a wonderful spot with a view for the family plot when our grandmother died.

We'll let everyone know the plans as soon as we do. We aren't going to rush it because pelple will have to make arrangements to come from Long Island and other places. We'll bring Mom home with us when we come to NJ soon. Diva will leave tomorrow to be home in time to see Gina off to her first day of college. Family life goes on and it's good. But we all have to go through these times as well.

Thanks to everyone who read the blog and sent messages. It was really great to hear from people who read the blog and knew that they cared about us and Mom. You are all such great friends.

Thursday night exhausted

Diva and I apent the day with Mom sometimes sitting with her together and sometimes trading off. Don was finally able to get home from his business trip and Mom is still with us. Just barely but still there. She is really in fina phase with apena which scares you because she stops breathing but then starts again. She is running a fever of 105.6 Can you believe it? We are totally exhausted.

Thursday

I think today might be the day for my mom.

The hospice nurse said she is in a coma now and not responsive but we should consider that she can probably hear us. So Diva and I are sitting with her and talking about the things we normally talk about. That way if she can hear us she will feel included and not sitting in a sad quiet room. We are playing her classical music and Mom seems quiet and peaceful. That has been our goal all along so I guess this is going well.